Alzheimer's Disease is a degenerative, progressive type of dementia that causes problems with memory, thinking and behaviour.
Symptoms usually develop slowly and get worse over time, becoming severeenough to interfere with daily tasks. Discovering a loved one has Alzheimer's disease can be devastating. We explore what it's like caring for someonewith Alzheimer's by walking a mile in Trish T.'s shoes. Trish's mom was diagnosed five years ago and has learneda lot since-about the system, the challenges of being a "sandwicher" and how to celebrate the little things.
Tell me about your mom. How old was she when she was diagnosed?
My mom was social. She kept a meticulous home and there was always something cooking in the oven in case of visitors - she was social and had an open door policy. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's related dementia five years ago at the age of 70.
Looking back, what were the signs and symptoms of Alzheimer's your mom experienced?
Before her Alzheimer's diagnosis, my mom experienced dramatic hearing loss so in hindsight, there were many signs but they went unnoticed because we thought they were due to this. She became less vocal and didn't contribute to conversations much. Also, her kitchen cupboards suddenly became incredibly packed and unorganized. Normally, her cupboards are highly organized and anything less than that would cause her anxiety, but she seemed unaffected. And then there was the incident that made us realize something was terribly wrong; she went to go to a doctor's appointment and ended up 40 kilometers away after boarding the wrong train. We got a call from the police who told us that staff at the train station found my mother wandering, disoriented and confused. At this point, we knew it had nothing to do with her hearing loss.
What are the challenges of caring for someone with Alzheimer's?
At first we thought, "How are we going to deal with this? What should we expect?" Ultimately, we made the decision that it was best to keep her at home and do anything we could to accommodate her there. Some of the biggest challenges were removed when we made my parents' home accessible. Before this it was hard, for example, to guide her into the tub because she couldn't hear or follow instructions. She is no longer as mobile as she was and so there is no risk of her wandering. Personally, my biggest challenge is juggling two homes ("sandwich generation"). I'm constantly coordinating care for my parents and taking care of my own family - especially my 13-year old son who demands a great deal of my time.
Tell me about some of the tasks you do to help on a regular basis?
My 84-year old father cares for my mom at home and has committed to doing so as long as he can. I'm currently the main contact and family "coordinator" for all her care including her visits to her day program, visits by her home care providers (for personal care, help with feeding and caregiver relief). I am constantly trying to find ways to make life easier for my father to care for her in their home.
What are some tips you can provide to someone who has just learned a parent has Alzheimer's?
The best advice I was given, is to contact the local Regional Geriatric Program as soon as a loved one is diagnosed. Nothing compares to dealing with geriatric professionals who really "get" this disease. Prior to this, we felt lost in the system. Also, contact your local community care network-they are a wealth of information and the best navigators through the system.
